As you age, your role changes. You go from being cared for, to caring for others. This cycle has been with humankind since before we evolved into what we are today, and will only strengthen in the future. Today, it is becoming once again the norm for adult children to live with their parents to minimize the costs of living. What should also be the norm, however, is to actually care for your aging parents. Yes, old age homes or retirement homes do have their uses. If they need constant, around-the-clock medical care provided by nurses then this could be the best way forward, but it should always be a last resort.
There is so much power in social connections, and these are your parents’ last years. You should do all you can to not only bring them closer to your family but to help them live their best life.
Keep the things they need stocked
The best part about modern living is the ability to not only stock up on specialty items that your local grocery store might not hold, but to do so with complete convenience. This means that you can get all the tools and aids your doctor or loved one require right from home by using online stores. If your aging parent has moderate incontinence, for example, you can not only get specialty adult diapers with tabs, but have choice in which brand and type is the right fit for your parent’s needs. By keeping what they need stocked, you can help them feel independent and back in control.
Move them in with you
Unless you don’t have the room, sometimes the best way to care for them is to move them in with you. This is particularly important if they have more advanced medical needs than they can care for themselves, but don’t yet need around-the-clock care offered in retirement homes. Do this, and you can become closer, your family can bond together, and you can enjoy the time you have left with them.
Help them live out their golden years
There are so many things you can do at any age, and the more you do after your retirement, the better. For example, sign up for a class to do with you and your mother. You could learn a new skill or craft together, meet new people and bond. Or you can go on regular walks together – the possibilities are truly endless. The only thing you need to do is help your parent live out their best life. This could mean keeping them happy and busy, or it could mean helping them fulfill their bucket list, or anything in-between.
Caring for an aging parent will require the both of you to learn to adapt to the new changes. After all, a few decades ago the roles were reversed, and this role reversal can be difficult to accept. By being patient and meeting each other halfway, however, you can bond together and improve your mother or father’s retirement significantly.